Mirror mirror on the wall
You may care about your appearance, but we don’t. We care about performance. We care about your quality of life. That’s why we don’t spend time lifting in front of mirrors or posing to see our muscles bulge.
Aesthetics are not an indicator of fitness.
You've tried all the diets
Atkins, Keto, Southbeach, Mediterranean, IFYM, Weightwatchers, CodeRED, Paleo, Vegan, calorie counting, low carb, low fat, Raw Food, juicing, Slimfast, Bloodtype... and so on. The number of diets to choose from is endless and there are more being developed all the time because it's a $65 billion+ industry.
Expectations
What kind of expectations do you place on yourself? Are they reasonable? Do we even know what reasonable is?
I'm learning to change my relationship with expectations. They aren't as helpful as they might seem at first glance.
Define Yourself One Moment at a Time
I believe you should be able to state your three to five core values and the principles you live by that demonstrate those values. There is a lot to be said for doing all this work and how it helps you define the person you want to be.